Matrimonial Consultant also Plays the Role of a Counsellor
With a bevy of marriage portals offering online solutions, why do people still come to matrimonial consultants?
The concept of joint families is waning in the metros. Unlike yesteryears, when finding a bride/ groom was done by the extended family, it is now only the parents who have to search for their son or daughter. And they are too busy to do it. So, most of them turn to consultants.
Twenty years ago, when I started off, people used to approach a consultant as a last resort. But now, they come to us without trying another alternative.
How personalised should the services of a marriage consultant be?
We ensure that every client is attended to in person by me - just the way a doctor meets his patient. We deal with human beings and not objects. This is why they show their gratitude when they get married and send us sweets and Diwali gifts and at times, become our friends for life.
Does a matrimonial consultant also double up as a counsellor?
We have to convince them to sacrifice certain conditions. They might have very high expectations but they should compromise on a few things here and there. They come with a closed mind, and it's my job to open them.
Some parents ask us to convince their daughters who are adamant about certain things they want in their prospective husband, which are too hard to fulfil.
How has the marriage market changed in the past 20 years?
Earlier, a woman's opinion was not very significant but now parents give due respect to their daughters. Now, even women reject many probable matches. They are as choosy as their male counterparts.
Author: Vimal Chander Joshi (HT Horizons)
Date: 4th November, 2010
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